Thrive Like A Parent

Why It’s So Hard to Take Time For Myself Away From My Children

EP:44 On his week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast… we're going to talk about why it's so damn hard to take time for yourself away from your kids.
I believe that we get in this state of only focusing in on our children that we totally forget that we too exist.
I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way.. In fact it SHOULDN’T be that way!
What I'm telling you is there is an incredible ability for you to become the captain of your own ship, despite the feelings discomfort, guilt, shame.
It might be wildly uncomfortable.
But is it worth it? You better fucking believe it's worth it. It's worth every ounce of moments away and self care and self love and you better believe it.
Because when you come back, it's magic.
Because you have given yourself what you need to then show up for your children, to show up for your partnership, show up for yourself. You have gifted yourself the gift of honor and mental health.
Join me to dive deep into how you too can enjoy time away from your kids without any guilt or shame.
XOXO,
Dr. B

Stop Telling Your Children How They Feel

EP:43 Our children have feelings and they are in there. They may not understand or be able to identify the word but they sure as hell have them and it is up to us to help them feel the safety and comfort of pulling it out of their body and to be able to verbalize it.
So crucially important.
We don't want to minimize, we don't want to belittle, we don't want to overshadow… We just want to validate that's it. Just be present that's it just be present to the vulnerability of our children.
That will get you so much farther in trust with them and connection with them. And the ability to know that they are okay. And that they have the tools to spread their wings and fly.
Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast for tools, actionable steps into how to help your children find the feelings themselves, how to help your children learn how to communicate their own feelings, rather than us giving it to them.

Post Partum Rage and Dysregulation

EP:42 This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast we are talking about a topic that was requested by YOU the listeners, which is postpartum, rage and dysregulation within postpartum.
In order to understand how we get to that place of postpartum rage and dysregulation, we have to take a step back in terms of how we've gotten to that place.
We have these expectations of I've always wanted to be a parent. But the true question is... Do I really understand what that will look like when the baby finally comes out?
Most of us don't realize that dysregulation and rage and sadness and postpartum depression is a form of grief, you are grieving your old life. Because within a blink of an eye, you, your body, your entire life has changed forever.
The dysregulation is coming out because you're living in a state of survival from the moment you start having contractions and we are neglecting the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort it takes to actually deliver these humans.
Knowing how to take care of your body. Give yourself what it needs. That's the ultimate parenting guide one on one.
This and so much more on this week's episode..

Emotional Eating and how To Break the Cycle Through Regulation

EP:41 What most don't quite understand is that emotional eating is not psychological. It's neurological.
And on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, I am going to give you the tools you need to break that cycle through regulation!
You absolutely can have an intuitive and healthy relationship with food. Without any shame.
Recognition
Awareness
Trust
Create awareness behind how you're feeling and why you might feel dysregulated or heightened or overstimulated. Why is your brain seeking regulation?
I urge you to BE CURIOUS, listen to your body and what it wants.. Go slow. Tune in with your body and your brain. Building new patterns takes time. Be kind and loving to yourself through the process.
Join me to dive deep into the steps to break the cycle of emotional eating, trust yourself and create a healthy and intuitive relationship with food on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.

The Fear of Slowing Down and Why It’s Key To Enjoying Your Life

EP:40 In today's world it has become incredibly hard for humans to slow down.
People are now glorifying hustling and bustling and we seem to be in a constant race against time in juggling numerous responsibilities, roles and keeping up with the daily demands of life.
These days, the busier you are, the more relevant you become and more jobs mean more food on the table.
But what happens when we start contemplating the idea of hitting the brakes and taking things a little slower?
Well, that's when this fear creeps in.
Why? Because slowing down in our society could mean insufficiency, failure, or stagnation.
For most of us, slowing down means less income, missed promotions, and less money for our family's needs.
Deciding to slow down means something important has to be given up.And we don't want that because our brains thrive on structure, stability, and control.Because of this fear,  we keep going, we normalize multi-tasking, and we keep on pushing ourselves harder to our limits until we get exhausted, irritable, burnt out, and dysregulated!
But what if I told you that there's another side of that fear that could unlock the door to a happy, confident, satisfied, and joyful living? -- where it's ok to chew slower and walk slower;  where it's safe to ride the waves, smell the flowers, and feel settled; where it's guiltless to comfortably lie down on the couch, enjoy, and REST!
So in this week's Thrive Like A Parent podcast episode, let's talk about one of society's most intriguing topics --
The Fear of Slowing Down and Why it's the Key to Enjoying Your Life.
Join me as we start to learn about creating new patterns to slow down your brains and live the life that you truly want for you and your family at a pace that's
good for you and that works for you!
Yes! You can do that!

Feeling Like You Are Roommates with Your Partner

EP:39 For this week's episode, join me as I talk about one of the things that usually happens at homes that no one really talks about--It's the feeling of being like roommates with your partner.
This situation is so inevitable in every relationship as time goes by. It easily happens;  it's somehow bound to happen; and it's absolutely normal.However, it's like a  super taboo issue that nobody can comfortably bring up without the fear of being shamed or judged!
Why??  Because we all want to put our best faces in everything, especially with what's happening inside the four corners of our homes! We always want to project that we are so in control at home, especially in front of others. Right??
What usually causes the drift?? Overfamiliarity, too much comfortability, overwhelming tasks, and routines, piled up work, new responsibilities, raising kids, insecurities, lack of intimacy, fear, resentment, and so much more.
While this is a common phenomenon among partnerships, it takes a lot of effort to change this shift. This takes brain rewiring and so much decision making.As we know, matters like this  never changes overnight. It needs the key elements of time, communication, and enough vulnerability to be able to see that spark and joy in the relationship again!
All these and more on the Thrive Like A Parent podcast.

A Raw Look Into My Grieving Journey

EP:38 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent I am so excited to be joined by Lolo to discuss my grief journey through another lens. Lolo has been my rock and partner in crime through every step of this.
Lolo has supported me and my boys through an unimaginably tragic time of our lives. I can not be express into words how incredibly grateful I am to Lolo and her husband Chris. I am so thankful for the choice they made to unconditionally support us through this wild ride.
We all need support. We are not meant to go through this journey alone and there is no shame in admitting, seeking and getting what you need, what your brain needs and what you body needs.
Join us as we dive deep into the last three years of our lives.

It’s Ok Not to Love Every Moment of Parenthood

EP:37 On this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast we are getting real about parenthood because the truth is... This shit is hard!
We crave that control and structure and stability within parenthood. That structure stability and control is an illusion, it is not reality, and it does not exist.
Waving the white flag and admitting that this just is what it is. It's going to be ups and downs and highs and lows and that is ok!
There are hard moments, that doesn't mean that you don't love parenting. It doesn't make you a bad parent. Hard moments are just that.. A hard moment. When you finally accept that it's just a moment and release the guilt and shame... Happiness, joy, peace, calm and acceptance will start flooding in.
And you can have that. You are worthy of that!

Vulnerability And The Role It Plays In The Journey Of Healing

EP:36 I am soooo excited to be joined by the one and only @thetireddad or otherwise known as Jon Gustin on this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
I was so incredibly drawn to Jon because of his vulnerability, and his willingness to put his healing journey out there from day one and I am so grateful to be able to bring his perspective to all of you.
We will diving in deep into dad life and the struggles and challenges that are so very much not talked about enough!
“Vulnerability opens up so many conversations and gives voices to so many people that didn't have the courage or were scared to step out.” -Jon
Join us as we discuss parenthood struggles, mental health, substance abuse and so much more.

Why Noise Is So Triggering

EP:35 Whether we're sensory seekers or sensory avoiders, we always have those days when we're triggered by noise in all forms-- be it from crying babies, whining and bickering toddlers, fighting siblings, or even just from playing kids while in the bathtub. Does that make us broken? Does that make us bad parents?
Definitely not! There are noises that we just can't tolerate!!! That's just how our brain is wired and programmed.
And until we have awareness on what's going on inside, we will never have clarity and understanding of why certain things easily trigger us.
Being mindful of how our brains tick will absolutely help us in finding the right tools for us to regulate every time we are over functioning and overstimulated.
So even when the noise is just overwhelming, we can recognize what our brains and bodies need and remind that we are in a safe space. You can give your body what it’s craving without any guilt, shame, and fear because our nervous system knows that it is safe and OK!
All these and more on this week's episode in Thrive Like a Parent podcast.