Thrive Like A Parent

The Difference Between Regulating Internally Versus Externally

EP:74 The majority of humans somehow get into the pattern of learning how to regulate themselves on an external basis, which means they rely on everyone and everything else around them to give them permission, as well as allow them to regulate their nervous system.
I find that the individuals who are externally regulating, it's as if that human is in a sea of water. And they are waving their hands around with tons of waves and white caps around them, and they are just treading water. And you can't do that forever. But what ends up happening is we're in the middle of the sea begging for a life raft.
Externally, the individuals around you are not meant to satiate and take care of your nervous system. Can they support you? You bet. But can they fix and throw you a life raft? Every single time all the time? 24/7? No. And the reason being is that A: It's not realistic. And B, they have their own nervous system to take care of.
Go down that rabbit hole and explore all the things that make YOU feel good. AND DECIDE to support yourself. Because what's waiting for you on the other side is such freedom, freedom from resentment and anger from your loved ones. Freedom for holding permission and everyone else's hands for your happiness and your mental health. Freedom from needing to feel worthy from others, and most importantly, regulating through someone else and other things externally.
More tips on this week episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast.

Living Aligned Within the Individual Neurology of Your Own Brain

EP:73 On this week’s episode I am joined by Laura Day. Laura is an intuitive healer. She is a New York Times best seller. And she's worked with many amongst the stars. Laura’s work has helped demystify intuition and bring it into the mainstream. Laura has trained thousands of people and companies to use their brains, perceptions, and “sixth sense” in effective ways to realize their goals.
We discuss what it means to truly live aligned within the individual neurology of your own brain.
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The Healing in Sharing Your Story

EP:72 On today’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast… I am so honored to be joined by Kelli Bullard.
Kelly is an incredible mama. A young widow. Teacher turned author.
We are all struck by tragedy in some way within our life. And at some point, we may need to support a neighbor, a friend, a loved one. And we have no earthly idea what that's going to look like for them, or what they may need.
Each individual person definitely needs something different.
Join us as we discuss how we had to figure out our own process in grief, Kelly’s new book (Behind My Smily), finding love after tragedy and so much more.

Why I Don’t Believe in New Year’s Resolutions

EP:71 Happy 2024!!!
As we start ramping up this year, I want to remind you that today is today, we'll see what tomorrow brings. But be proud of yourself just simply for showing up. And trust the process.
Whatever you're going through in your life.. Whether it's you having some January blues, whether it's you're feeling some depression, just in life or you've gone through a loss or you're having a hard season of your life, whatever it is, I want you to trust that process.
Trust time.
Love time.
Allow time.
Don't force time but instead soak it in.
Take one small step to change your life in whatever direction that means for you. Whether it is slowing down, whether it is slightly ramping up, utilize that throttle to make the long lasting impact within your life.
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Rebuilding Trust After Trauma

EP:70 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I have a very special guest with me, my boyfriend Carter.
Throughout this journey, I had to grow and trust the process. It wasn't easy. I had to let my guard down, be vulnerable, and communicate, which is tough, especially after the trauma I've been through. That's why it took me so long to share my current relationship with the world. It's been two years, and it shows the depth of the trauma I had to work through.
It's not just about breaking down walls; it's about feeling safe enough to let someone in and building that trust. The process took time, but now I can proudly say I'm in a committed relationship, and it's a testament to the healing and trust we've built together. Although, it was hard.. It’s attainable and so so worth it.
You can find a healthy partnership and do life together in a way that feels best in right for you.
I hope by us sharing our story with you, you too will find the courage to embark on this journey.

Discussing the Truth About the Holiday Season

I urge you to slow down and take a look at the world around you that you are creating… Because this is not easy. I don't care if you're a working parent, a stay at home parent, single, solo or divorced.This is hard.
It's not only hard to be a parent, but we live in a different world than our parents raised us in and it's okay to accept that and lean into that and give your brain and body all the support it needs.
My wish for you is extra rest and extra water. If you're feeling dysregulated get down to essentials. Skip everything else. Food, water, rest.
I wish you joy.
I wish you peace.
I wish you happiness.
I wish you support. I wish you love.
I wish you the gift of stepping on the brake.
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Burnout During The Holiday Season

EP: 68 Today I want to remind you the holiday season really truly at its core meant slowing down, resting, rebooting.
I want you to focus in on what matters most, which is taking the time to make holiday memories.
I guarantee you're already doing enough.
So put the garland down.
Slow your roll on the extra sides of mashed potatoes and the extra dish you think you need to make this year.
Stop over functioning and doing so much for so many when you really don't feel like doing it but you think you need to do it.
Start supporting yourself this holiday season and enjoy the time with your family and the ones you love most and most importantly rest, rest, rest.
Tune in to this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast for tips and strategies to truly enjoy and be present this holiday season.
XOXO,
Dr. B
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How to Unapologetically Make Your Life Your Own

EP:67 On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I am so honored to be joined by the one and only Erika Nolan!
Erika has not only been a dear friend of mine since childhood, she has also been an inspiration for personal growth and courage to live authentically in a world that often pushes conformity. Erika is now an incredible Holistic Health and Homestead Coach. Her journey involved many unexpected turns that led to a profound transformation.
Pursing a life that aligns with one's true self means stepping into the unknown, releasing old expectations , stepping out of societal norms and stepping into a path that feels right for you.
You, my friend are so worthy of living an aligned and fulfilling life that is your true calling. My hope is that this episode will be the sign for you to live and be unapologetically you!
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Exciting Life Update

EP:66 Hello, and welcome to another episode of Thrive like a parent Podcast. Today, I'm going to just give you a life update. So every now and then I will kind of do this and share with you what's going on in my life. And there are plenty of other podcasts of mine that give you tons and tons of information. But every now and then you crave and ask for a life update from me. And I appreciate your interest.
I think I will start with a Hashimotos update, because so many of you are asking for that. Doctors found that I had one tiny, gross, but former parasites, they've decided that I had an overgrowth of Candida. And of course, you know, stress, which of course that comes along with my life, and how much I have on my plate, which I knew that that's a part of Hashimotos. And they put me on basically a three month protocol.
And so it took me a lot to figure out what I could eat on a daily basis.  But, I kept saying we've got to do something about this daily routine because like this is clearly not working for my lifestyle.  Please know that number one, in life, you have to do what works for you! I now know that this can be managed.  But it has to be managed in the way that works for me.  I'm so proud of myself because I finally have enough energy to be able to attend to my needs as well as my kids.  It's slow, but I see it coming back and I take all my wins because if I don't then I'll just still feel icky.
I will never be the same person I was before Jonathan passed like I will never be the same person. I do believe that if you have have gone through anything huge in your life, lost a spouse, or a divorce or anything like that. I do believe that we don't fully own that it's okay to be someone different than who we were before.  Like, at the end of the day, I'm still broke, but the life experiences have shaped who I am, and who I will be for the rest of my my life, right.
The other thing on the life update is, I could not be more excited about this upcoming thrive.  So there are many different ways to work with me, you can work with myself, one on one, you can work with the three individuals who I've trained for over two years that I would absolutely never have on my team or never allow them to see clients if I didn't feel that you were going to get the same result as you would with me.  And so you can work with one of them.  You can work with me one on one basis, or you can do our Thrive group program.  So this year, we only do Thrive twice a year, just FYI, we do it in the beginning of the year and we do it before Thanksgiving, around September (please listen to my podcast to know how Thrive works).So let's talk about what's to come besides thrive.  I have some very, very exciting guests coming on the podcast in the coming year.  So look for that, we are going to be doing a lot more of all that we already are doing.  Because we feel so good with what we're doing.  And it's it's so rewarding.I can't thank you enough for listening and coming along for this crazy ride.  It's the best. It's so much fun.  I love doing this and I love I'm very lucky that I love what I do.  And I love supporting all of you.

Supporting Yourself in the Midst of Holiday Season Triggers

EP: 65 Being around our family for the holidays can be so triggering to us. On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, I want to give you a guideline of how to support yourself through that time.
Dysregulation into regulation does not happen overnight.
Anxiety into calm does not happen in a blink of an eye.
Fight or flight into rest and digest does not happen overnight.
It takes time, especially when you've been pounding the pavement all year long. That's the exact reason why I don't want you to start adding more to your plate with your family or taking on the emotional dysregulation of your family during this season.
This holiday season, I encourage you to take care of yourself, because I care. I care so much. And I am so grateful to each and every one of you.
XOXO,
Dr. B
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