Thrive Like A Parent

First Steps Toward Healing From Fight or Flight

EP:51 On this weeks episode of Thrive like a Parent podcast we will talk steps and signs of what happens when you finally begin the process of feeling your body come out of fight or flight. And it is so crucially important to understand this because you it's going to feel not as good as you want it to feel.
is so crucially important to have this knowledge so that you don't spiral. That you don't think you're in a deep dark depression so that you don't think it's never going to end so that you know that your brain is doing exactly what it needs to do.

Spit Fire on Frequently Asked Questions

EP:50 This week I decided to do something a little different on my Thrive Like a Parent podcast.
I want to say thank you to each and every one of you who trust me to support you through this crazy journey of life and dm me your questions.
I know I don’t have the time to answer all of your questions but I will do the best I can to do that in these podcast episodes.
Tell us how you're liking the podcast in the comments below, ask questions here! This will be the easiest place for me to see them.
-> If you have any requests on specific topics let me know in the comments below.

How To Teach Our Kids Feelings

EP:49 We can support our brain into rewiring.
We can support our brain into healing.
We can support our brain into gaining more fluency within each different portion of our brain.
Your brain might push and resist away from saying the hard emotional things because your brains not used to it NOT because it can't. It's just that muscle has not been flexed enough.
That is why it is so important to teach our children how to understand feelings, what they are and how to verbalize them.
It is our responsibility as parents to teach our children this consistentely within the safely of our home so they can continue to do the same out in the world.
Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent to learn how to teach your children feelings.

Living with Hashimoto’s Autoimmune Disease

EP:48 I have officially been diagnosed with Hashimotos.
It's an autoimmune disease, where your thyroid can bounce into hypothyroidism and hyperthyroidism.
It's been a hard one, it's been a real hard one to swallow.
But this will now be part of my story that I share with you and hopefully share my healing journey of what this looks like and how I am stepping in to supporting myself even more. And at the end of the day. It first and foremost starts with me on apologetically, taking care of myself.
So I choose to move forward with the awareness, with more knowledge, more grace, more understanding, more self love, and more healing. Because at the end of the day, health is the most important thing. Mental and physical. So take this today as a reminder to slow down. Take care of yourself.

How Our Choices Will Help Dictate The Next Generation

EP:47 Technology is sucking the money out of the world. It's absolutely crazy. And so many are going along with it.
It's so upsetting to me. It's so upsetting for our future generations and our children. This is not what I signed up for when I decided to have a family and have kids.
we've got to start living in reality and teaching our children that reality exists. And what that reality looks like is up to you to decide. You get to decide what this life looks like for your children, what you have them engage in and what you have them not engaged in.
On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we will dive deep into how our choices will help dictate the next generation.

Parenthood and Why it is Flipping Exhausting

EP:46 The first number one step to taking care of yourself within the exhaustion of parenthood is awareness, and acceptance.
Ask yourself… How do I feel? It is ok for the answer to be I feel exhausted. You get to feel that feeling. Exhausted does not mean you're weak. Feeling exhausted does not mean that you're a bad parent. Feeling exhausted means you're probably doing a phenomenal job.
When you accept how your brain and body is feeling, you are then allowed to go after the mental health that your brain and body is craving deserves and longs for.
But in order to truly support ourselves, not only do we have to have the awareness and acceptance, but we have to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. We have to learn how to regulate ourselves.
You are so worthy of finding that self care, you are so worthy of gaining support, no matter who it is. You are so worthy of finding a community, you're so worthy of asking someone for support, you're so worthy of having a moment of silence or just to stretch before you go to bed. You are so so worthy of that. But I cannot give that to you. You have to decide for yourself.
This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, we are going to discuss owning your exhaustion in parenthood and steps to take care of yourself through it without any guilt or shame.

Transitions For Our Children And Why They are Crucial To Understand

EP:45 When there is a transition, your brain is feeling discomfort.
We as parents have to support a child's brain into helping them become aware of the discomfort.
We have to guide them through the process of helping them BECOME AWARE, having lots of conversations.
There's no cure here. There's support. We cannot fix immediately, we have to support over the long haul. And consistency is key.
On this week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent, I dive deep into how to support your child through transitions, teach them to continue allowing their brain to say, I'm going to keep going despite the discomfort, I'm going to keep going despite the fear, I'm going to keep going despite the lack of knowledge of where the where the heck this is leading me to and set them up for success.

Why It’s So Hard to Take Time For Myself Away From My Children

EP:44 On his week’s episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast… we're going to talk about why it's so damn hard to take time for yourself away from your kids.
I believe that we get in this state of only focusing in on our children that we totally forget that we too exist.
I promise you, it doesn’t have to be that way.. In fact it SHOULDN’T be that way!
What I'm telling you is there is an incredible ability for you to become the captain of your own ship, despite the feelings discomfort, guilt, shame.
It might be wildly uncomfortable.
But is it worth it? You better fucking believe it's worth it. It's worth every ounce of moments away and self care and self love and you better believe it.
Because when you come back, it's magic.
Because you have given yourself what you need to then show up for your children, to show up for your partnership, show up for yourself. You have gifted yourself the gift of honor and mental health.
Join me to dive deep into how you too can enjoy time away from your kids without any guilt or shame.
XOXO,
Dr. B

Stop Telling Your Children How They Feel

EP:43 Our children have feelings and they are in there. They may not understand or be able to identify the word but they sure as hell have them and it is up to us to help them feel the safety and comfort of pulling it out of their body and to be able to verbalize it.
So crucially important.
We don't want to minimize, we don't want to belittle, we don't want to overshadow… We just want to validate that's it. Just be present that's it just be present to the vulnerability of our children.
That will get you so much farther in trust with them and connection with them. And the ability to know that they are okay. And that they have the tools to spread their wings and fly.
Join me on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast for tools, actionable steps into how to help your children find the feelings themselves, how to help your children learn how to communicate their own feelings, rather than us giving it to them.

Post Partum Rage and Dysregulation

EP:42 This week on the Thrive Like a Parent podcast we are talking about a topic that was requested by YOU the listeners, which is postpartum, rage and dysregulation within postpartum.
In order to understand how we get to that place of postpartum rage and dysregulation, we have to take a step back in terms of how we've gotten to that place.
We have these expectations of I've always wanted to be a parent. But the true question is... Do I really understand what that will look like when the baby finally comes out?
Most of us don't realize that dysregulation and rage and sadness and postpartum depression is a form of grief, you are grieving your old life. Because within a blink of an eye, you, your body, your entire life has changed forever.
The dysregulation is coming out because you're living in a state of survival from the moment you start having contractions and we are neglecting the amount of physical, mental and emotional effort it takes to actually deliver these humans.
Knowing how to take care of your body. Give yourself what it needs. That's the ultimate parenting guide one on one.
This and so much more on this week's episode..