Thrive Like A Parent

The Most Common Questions Finally Answered

EP:34 On this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent Podcast I want to talk to you about literally the most asked question of all time… And that question is, can I be a seeker and an avoider?
The answer is YES. 10000% YES.
There’s a whole spectrum of feelings and emotions and lots of hormones that are being pushed through the body.
The ability to train your brain into understanding how to support it in that moment of how do I feel? Where do I feel in my body? What do I need? How do I how do I go get it is beyond life changing.
What we ultimately want is to find a balance between seeking and avoiding.
What we want is to ultimately find a balance within regulation and get out of survival mode.
we should be supporting our nervous system on a daily basis, on a regular basis.
It is ok to be both… The shift between seeking and avoiding depends on how regulated you are and what your brain and body can tolerate at the time. If you’re living in a state of survival… If you’re living in fight or flight.. You’re probably going to be a lot more sensitive to stimuli. Because your brain and body is on alert.
We’re living in our vessels and our bodies without completely understanding how they function. And that’s what’s leading to so much mental health disorders is the lack of awareness.
What if it’s not that you’re broken? What if it’s that you just need a little bit of support, and knowledge?
If you want that for yourself, if you want that for your children, if you’re wanting so desperately to understand your child better, if you’re wanting to be able to support them in a way that you know, you can trust because it’s with a neurological lens…. Apply for Thrive starting in September. I promise you it will be worth it. Because it changed my life.
XOXO,Dr. B

Extracurriculars And The Crucial Role They Play For Our Children

EP:33 Observing your child is key to determine what extracurriculars are best for them. As parents we have to know how our child's brain ticks.
Finding out what activities our children enjoy would help us figure out how to help them regulate their brains on a daily basis.
Extracurricular activities are effective tools in regulating your childs’s nervous system that will last a lifetime.  
Swimming. Dancing. Ball games. Martial Arts.  Playing musical instruments .Anything that has lots of movements  in it. Anything that they enjoy doing!
We don’t need them to win. We don't need to be too competitive.
We only need to show up and watch our children do things that are healthy for their brains and bodies!

Rage And How It Shows Up With Ourselves And Our Kids

EP:32 This week on Thrive Like a Parent Podcast, we're going to be talking about rage. Rage in parenthood, mom rage and even rage that shows up with our children.
I am joined by Maria Gonzalez, who is an incredible member of my team. She is a huge part in supporting allll the parents in our community. 
This is a hot topic in our community. Is it ok to rage? Is it okay for our children to rage? Should we allow it? 
We are going to dive deep into what that means neurologically and emotionally. 
Rage is a complete loss of control, a disconnect between your ability to regulate and needing to move through these big emotions. Rage stems from UNMET NEEDS. You are not broken. 
It is your brain fighting for what it needs. 
Tune in with us as we go through real-life examples from our own lives and how we ourselves have moved through recognizing those emotions and regulating them. 

Raising Strong Willed Children Without Losing Your Mind

EP31: On this week’s episode of Throve4 Like a Parent podcast, we are going to talk about raising strong-willed children…They are going to test you like none other to the point where you are literally wanting to pull your hair out.You absolutely will be exhausted, you absolutely will lose your shit. You will snap, AND THAT IS OK!However, there is a way to honor their feelings because their feelings absolutely do matter but still set boundaries… You are in the driver's seat.Trust in your abilities. Trust that you are doing this for your children, and you are doing this to support your child and you're doing this because you love yourself and you are also in this dynamic as well living in this home. Everyone matters. Everyone matters in this situation. Every single one of you in that home. It's okay for you to accept that you matter. And so please take care of yourself. Please support your brain and body, not just your children's.Tune in with me on this week's episode to talk about setting boundaries and supporting our children's emotions while remaining in the driver's seat.

What It Means To Be A Sensory Avoider

EP:30 I am so excited to dive deep into what it means to be a sensory avoider on this weeks episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast. 
A true sensory avoider means that you experience sensory stimuli or input into your brain more intensely than the average human, which means you then avoid it because it's so overwhelming.
Here are some signs that you may be a sensory avoider:
You startle easily with sounds
You avoid bright lights
You zone out on your phone to escape the chaos
You prefer more bland food
You need the house to be clean and in order
You crave calm, quiet, peaceful environments
You are upset by unexpected touch
Often times I find that you humans with sensory avoiding tendencies place sooo much guilt and shame on themselves. Guilt to the point of anxiety and depression. Everyone else is going after it.. Why can’t I?? So they push and push and push. Doing the complete opposite from what their body and their brain actually wants and needs. 
Therefore awareness is KEY. You must understand how your brain functions, how your children's brain functions and how to support that brain, that will lead to the most beneficial, healthy, joyful life you could ever imagine. Because you're supporting the brain in a way that suits your own individual brain.

Transition Into Motherhood And What No One Talks About

EP:29 A transition means that your body and your brain is moving from one state to the next with different stimuli and different surroundings.
On this week’s episode of the Thrive Like a Parent podcast, let’s discuss transitioning into motherhood and what that means for your body and your brain.
No books, no courses, no classes, literally nothing. Nothing can prepare you for parenthood.
But if you understand your brain and your body from a sensory level, you can support your brain and body from the beginning through this transition into a new and beautiful phase of your life.
You get to decide what this transition looks like for you. You get to decide what you want your life to be like.
You get to be a human outside of parenthood. And you get to figure out what that means for you.

Is It Ever to Late to Repair with our Children

EP:28 Do you often wonder have I absolutely failed my children? And the damage is done? Have I damaged them for good? And luckily, I get to tell you now, the damage is NOT just simply done.
My goal with this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast is to help you understand and go to sleep, trusting that you are doing enough that you're a great parent, you love your kids, and to stop shaming that brain.
Everything leads back to sensory and emotional regulation.
Neurologically supporting the brain affects your children in a very beautiful repair healthy way. If you learn to regulate your nervous system, what ends up happening is you learn to have a much healthier co regulation with your children. Because if you can support your brain in your body into repairing your own emotional state and repairing your own sensory state, then you can support your child as well...
Join me on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into how to release the guilt and repair the relationship with your child.

ADHD And How It Relates To Regulation And The Nervous System

EP:27 It's time to rip the band aid off. We just need to accept and understand our brains and support our brains. And we need to accept and understand that the world functions probably 10 times faster than it did when our parents were raising us. And that's what we're up against with our kids.
The rat race and the hamster wheel we live in is pushing your brain to its breaking point. There's such a crisis of depression, anxiety and dysregulation. A mental health crisis.
AND everything leads back to regulation.
How you interact with humans and most importantly your children when you are dysregulated vs regulated. There is a difference. And if you're aware of it, and you EXPERIENCE it, and LEARN how to feel the difference. You CAN GET BACK IN THE DRIVER'S SEAT.
That's exactly why Dr. B created my Battling Burnout course. It is her absolute desire to be able to teach alll of you this information in the most cost effective way and make it accessible to every human.
Want more details about this course? -> https://drbrookeweinstein.com/battling-burnout/
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of Thrive Like a Parent podcast to dive deep into how ADHD relates to sensory and emotional regulation.

Unspoken Truths About The Male Brain

EP:26 There are no conversations about dads struggling or how to support them or what to do about it. We need to BREAK that silence. The silence that dads experience in terms of just letting them know it's okay to struggle and letting them know it's okay to feel burnt out and exhausted and depleted.
Not only do men have a hard time saying "hey, I think I'm struggling over here." Men have a hard time finding what language to use, how to feel what they're feeling, or how to process it.
That portion of the male brain is not flexed. It's literally like going to the gym, working out and feeling that burn? That's what we need to do in the male brain to increase the fluency for you, Dads, to be able to flex that muscle of your brain to share your feelings. It's is so important on a societal level, not just for parents, not just for dads, but for the male brain to understand the male brain.
We've been led to believe psychologically, that we are broken, we are the ones that need to be fixed. And we need to be able to fit in with societal norms, it is not the case. That's literally what Dr. B's entire platform and message is about.
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent podcast to dive into the unspoken truths about the male brain.

Fearful vs. Fearless Parenting

EP:25 Parenting from a place of fear stems from wounds we feel from our own childhood. We want different for our children.
However, there is an ability to find a balance between conscious and gentle parenting versus fearless parenting versus owning your boundaries, taking the time to teach our children how to communicate in a beautiful, supportive, healthy manner.
Parenting is HARD. It is hard to show up. I 100000% know how hard this is to make sure that our children are taken care of emotionally, financially, in extracurriculars and allll the things. We are all doing the best we can. That deserves some level of mutual respect.
We can teach our children how to stand up for themselves. But do it with tact and respect. And that is possible through FEARLESS Parenting.
Join Dr. B on this week's episode of THRIVE Like a Parent Podcast to dive deep into how we got to this place of fearful parenting and how to make the shift into fearless parenting while still showing up in a conscious and loving way.